Confessions of a Recovering Facebook Addict - Part I

Facebook has taken the world by storm. These days it's not unusual to "Facebook" someone, rather than call them or even send them an email. Many people spend a majority of their time logged into their Facebook accounts, sending flair, trading bumper stickers, or just writing on their friends' walls. In all, it can be very time consuming, and many Facebook-ers have begun to exhibit addictive behaviors around their Facebook use.

I used to be a Facebook addict. I was always logged in. With the increased popularity of smart phones (like the iPhone), it's possible to be connected to your Facebook account even when you're nowhere near a computer. That was me. I have since begun walking the long road to recovery. It hasn't been easy - withdrawal from Facebook is an ugly and frightening experience. Night-sweats and shakes; uncontrolable finger cramping, and an intolerable urge to poke everyone you know are only the beginning. Afterwards comes the feelings of disconnection and loss. Wondering what your "friends" are up to, and the desire to post something witty as your status persist for weeks.

So, how can you tell if you are a Facebook addict? Here are twenty simple statements for your consideration. If you can answer 'yes' to ten or more of them, you may have a Facebook problem, and should seek professional help.

1. I login to Facebook to relieve feelings of stress when I'm under pressure.


2. Whenever I have a reason to celebrate—for example, a job promotion, birthday, or anniversary — Posting something on my wall or updating my status is one of the first things I make a point of doing.


3. I sometimes use Facebook to escape after a disappointment or rough day.


4. I sometimes feel slightly guilty about my Facebook use.


5. In the morning, I sometimes regret things I've said or done while on Facebook.


6. I've often failed to keep promises about controlling my Facebook use.


7. I usually Facebook after a confrontation or argument to relieve my uncomfortable feelings.


8. I designate a set time of the day - for instance, anytime after 8:00 in the morning - when it’s okay to Facebook.


9. I sometimes stay logged into Facebook for more than a few days at a time.


10. I pretty much avoid going places where Facebook is not acceptable or accessible.


11. Logging into my Facebook account is usually one of the first things I do when I come home at the end of the day.


12. I feel annoyed about comments on my Facebook use.


13. I feel guilt or shame about my Facebook use.


14. I use Facebook to build up my self-confidence.


15. Facebook use is jeopardizing my job or business.


16. I socialize primarily onine with people on my friend list.


17. I use Facebook at work or during school.


18. I use a variety of Facebook applications.


19. I am losing real friends because of my Facebook usage.


20. I am at risk of losing my job or failing in school because of my Facebook usage.

If you find that many of these statements apply to you, seek out a support group or counseling session and get help right away.